See also best Spends@100k windfall but I want to maintain two distinct blogposts.

Hi my dear sister,

Re your “vague” question of what exactly I want to achieve with my investment effort, I have a longer answer now, hopefully not so vague 😉

Indeed I still spend several weeks each quarter on investment research/review/decisions. I adjust my views (more often than my portfolio) rather actively.

In [[irrational exuberance]]  Shiller imagined holders of stocks growing into paper millionaires. One of them out there will feel the itch to cash out and improve current living standard. If I were one of them , how do I want to “live more like a millionaire“?

Even though I feel almost “job done” (i.e. I can retire to a thrifty retirement), there’s still some cash flow anxiety beneath the surface.

1) First goal I want to achieve with my investment is relief from that anxiety. Comparatively, I’m on a very comfortable cash flow “high ground”, so my anxiety is less than other people’s.

I will say there’s a risk that we could fall sick, suffer an investment loss or take other strategic missteps. Investment incomes (hopefully diversified and without a 10-year wait) provide the cushion I need.

I can see the ERE author doesn’t have this goal in https://www.getrichslowly.org/early-retirement-extreme/

See precarious pillar/levee/shield #MLP

1b) a related (vague) goal .. reduce my dependency on the WSC harbor as the base_camp for my family livelihood. Best achieved with higher NNIA.

2) The Second (specific) goal I want to achieve with my investment is relief from long commutes, which is a common pain in NY/NJ area. Most people seem to put up with long commutes but I hate it. With more investment income, I can afford to live closer to office, or take lower-paying jobs closer to home.

This goal is so close to heart that it popped out  as soon as I wrote down your question.  After a while, I found a more important, less realistic goal about work stress (work-life balance). I would want to find an easy job (less lucrative) with plenty of free time, where I am free to put in 50% of effort to do a good enough job, without risk of PIP.  I said “unrealistic” because my current level of wealth is insufficient to support it. At a more realistic level, I do feel less pressure to earn more, since 2019 in my chats with GregR. See also my blogpost on all_the_way despite low pay

3) another specific goal .. to support my stay-home wife, so that she can nurture the kids till high school. Many well-off families have a stay-home mother.

9) A distant goal I want to achieve with my investment is extra reserve to support optional big ticket items such as college. I don’t need an even bigger home, but my wife has persuaded me to consider a bigger home. Vacations are unnecessary to my simple life, but my wife would appreciate them.

Fundamentally, by age 40 I had completed all my big-ticket goals — 1) home ownership 2) retirement 3) medical contingency reserve 4) an optional, reasonable amount set aside to help pay college (discussed shortly)

When I look around at my age group, where is the Biggest difference in cash flow pressure, the difference between high ground vs low ground? Luxury branded education. As I said, most of my peers (Chinese professionals in finance or technology) set a target to save more than a million dollars for top school-district housing and top colleges. These are luxury items, not suitable for lower-middle class like me, with only a single income and two kids. To them I say NoThanks.

Now, Many of them consider the school-district home purchase (USD 700k+) an investment, but the monthly cost is heavy, including mortgage, pTax and maintenance, adding up to 4k to 6k every month. When I first considered this burden, this monthly commitment, I had to literally take a deep breath.

Why do I keep talking and thinking about my peers making their decisions? Because they represent a huge peer pressure on me and my wife. The “NoThanks” is easy to say once or twice, but consistency requires mellowness. I have to work hard to keep saying NoThanks. Paradoxically, this NoThanks is a major underlying motivation behind my investment effort.

Overall, I’m comfortable in terms of cash-flow, but in terms of income, we are really lower-middle class . No shame no regret.

— In Sep 2021 AshS asked me a similar question “Your growing net asset is just a number on a screen that you check every year. Why is that number important to you?”

• I named nonwork income, esp. after retirement. I allocate most of my spare money into income-generators
• I said that at the moment I wasn’t worried about having too much money to spend in later life. I think it reflects an underlying insecurity in livelihood[3], perhaps not about (anticipated) job loss but about non-financial disasters that financial resource would be needed just to reduce the impact. 100% complete protection is usually unattainable.
• .. How about legacy for my offspring? I told AshS “not my plan” but any leftovers I can surely leave to them.

[3] Even the best managed companies and countries , with the widest moat, have the same insecurity.

— compare to younger peers like Kun.h
My friend K.Hu’s 2020 email is quite in-depth. Similar to my first goal, I can see that he still works hard for long-term family livelihood. ( I guess AshS is more carefree, due to the bachelor’s life. )

Compared to them, I’m older and more mellow, less ambitious in terms of Brbr, FOLB/exclub, career growth… Instead, wellness, lifestyle adjustment, healthcare, choice of home country, retirement planning …. are more important as I grow older. Therefore, livelihood is a slightly smaller driver.

FOLB/exclub/kiasu … At my age, I have less to prove, less to aim for in terms of moving higher…

Cashflow is a factor (sometimes a major factor) in each “dimension” above. However, cashflow should not dominate every dimension.