When you read any serious writing, or watch a movie, you will realize that for a parent, “good job” is NEVER about how much money we provide for our kids, though it is still part of the “job”.

The more casual (occasionally careless) a conversation is, the more likely we would notice hints

“amount of money parents provide” is correlated to “QUALITY-of-parenting”.

(Similarly, a good job as a child is never about how much money we provide our aging parents, or the qualifications or the financial success we earn for our parents.)

Here are what I have done so far: I have spent a lot of time with my kids, and I carefully plan for their future, not only financially. I would say that effort to guide them on life skills, survival skills, recovery skills, good habits, self discipline, self motivation etc is more important than an ambitious university education fund.

I work hard to earn more money to support myself, my wife, the safety and well-being of my family. In contrast, funding my kids’ university education isn’t my most important financial duty.